tantrums are horrible!

little becca who i nanny just turned 8... and she still throws tantrums whenever she doesnt get things her way. i hate having to deal with them, but i know that if i just ignore them or give her what she wants, she will walk all over me. however, they are always over stupid things. for example today...

today they girls were ridding their bikes, and becca asked lizzie if she would go back into the house and get her her shades... well lizzie said no, that she should get them herself if she wants them. so she came inside crying and becca tried to convince me of how horrible lizzie was for not getting shades for her. i then told becca that even though it would be nice of lizzie to do so, that it wasnt her job and that she didnt have to get her her shades. so she cried some more... and some more. i then said, becca, you are a big girl and can get yourself what you want. and she screamed NO I CANT! so i told her that she should either go get her own shades and be nice, or go to her room and not come out until she was happy. she chose the second. when she came out 15 mins later i talked to her about controlling her temper, and then she went outside again to ride her bike. BUT then a minute later i heard her screaming again at lizzie. she was upset that lizzie was going to go inside to get a drink of water and rest for a little bit. i then told becca that she could still ride her bike, and that i would watch her until lizzie came back out to play. she screamed NO and hit me, (at that point i just wanted to spank her little butt... but shes not my kid and there is a better way to handle it)... so instead i said excuse me? we do not hit. you need to go back inside and calm down. she wouldnt go, so i picked her up and carried her all the way to her room, while she was kicking me the whole way.

its been 20 mins now, and i guess she is still not calm and happy, but when she is... she has 10 sentences to write...

i will not hit becca c. and i will not scream.

and i also threw in a picture drawing assignment... she is going to draw herself being nice and happy today.

and on top of that, we are not going anywhere fun today (we were planning on going bowling). but what stinks about all of this, is that i really wanted to go bowling today, i always want her to be happy and to behave. but if she doesnt, then that ruins my day, and we all suffer. kids are crazy, they can be little angels one minute, then demons the next. either way i still love her, but is it too hard to ask for a day without a tantrum???