I am not a mommy, but I have the responsibility of taking care of two girls, 7 and 10. I feel like I do a pretty good job most of the time, but then there are times that I feel like I am going to go crazy. Is it normal to feel this way? Kids are so unpredictable and its hard to always feel like I am doing the right thing so here are some examples. If you have any suggestion of what to do, it would be AWESOME...
1- should i argue about not bringing your umbrella everywhere.. when its not raining?
2- they have a snack every day after school before they start there homework (usually grapes and cheese).. and yet they are always "hungry", should i ignore that so they eat their dinner later?
3- little Becca (7) always gets distracted while reading.. if she doesnt know a word, she stops reading and tells a story or asks a random question. should i stop her and help her with the word, or listen to her funny story? i dont want her to hate reading, and she gets frustrated easily.
4- they always want a staw with their drink, should i let them have one every single time?
5- they have dance class every tuesday, and i let them pick out their clothes.. should it matter if they clash or not?
i guess it always comes down to the little things. i know that you have to pick your battles, but whos to say which is important enough to argue about? i dont want to make little things a huge deal, or have to punish them for something so little but i also dont want them walking all over me. any advice?
4 comments:
LOL sorry I'm totally giggling. All I can say is children will push the limits to see how far they can get. You make the rules and you need to be consistant. Personally I try to keep arguing with kids to a min. I'm the adult. You can tell them they have 30 seconds ( or what ever you can handle ) for them to give their opinions and state their case la laa but after that the subject is closed.. so let them complain about the umbrella or the snack and after that just tell them no and just dont answer back lol if they continue or give them a short time out to let them know to stop. Ultimately you are the adult and you make the decisions =)
I have learned a lot about younger kids while in primary. Be consistent with the things that really matter like obedience or safety issues, but sometimes you just need to pick your battles. Don't let it overwhelm you. The clothes probably don't matter to much. If you want them to match you could put together 3-4 outfits and let them choose from them. Sometimes they just like to make a decision on their own. If you do put a kid in time out, make sure that it is a place where they can't keep themselves entertained. It's not a punishment if they enjoy it. If they claim they are hungry have them drink some water and wait a while, or change their snack to something that is a little more filling like a half sandwich and carrots. As for the reading, if you see that she is struggling with a word, you could try to help her before she gets sidetracked or say that you would love to hear her stories after you have finished reading. Obviously I'm not a mom yet, but I hope this helps a little.
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